Newborn babies are beautiful little beings but they don’t always sleep well. They are used to being nice, warm and cosy inside their mummy’s tummy and now they’re out in the big wide world and need some help figuring out when is day and when is night. Sleep patterns often get confused and they can sleep more in the day than at night resulting in a very tired mumma.
Baby massage is a wonderful way to bond with your baby and has many of the same benefits of massage as when you’re an adult. It relaxes you and allows you to forget the stresses of the day, how many times when you’re having a massage have you thought you could fall asleep?
Having a baby is the most wonderful, joyful and exciting time and nothing can prepare you for the amount of love you feel for this little person that you’ve created.
At the same time it is the most tiring, frustrating and hardest thing you can ever do, no matter how many books you read nothing can prepare you for how much it can turn your life upside down.
All of your priorities change and every waking moment is spent at the beck and call of this tiny human. Trying to decipher their cries and constantly making sure they are dry, fed, happy and getting enough sleep. I remember thinking how strange it was that my life had gone from 24 hour days to 4 hour sections around Ollie’s feeds. And that was my whole life now, a series of 4 hour blocks feeding, changing, activity, sleep- repeat.
Nothing can prepare you for having a baby it literally turns your world upside down, night becomes day, day becomes night and somehow you manage to bumble through in some sleep deprived haze of nappies, feeds and cuddles.
With all of the very real pressures on mums from breastfeeding vs bottle feeding to baby led weaning, learning to walk, talk and use the potty there’s a never ending list of milestones you feel you have to conquer. All whilst looking amazing and having a clean and tidy house – although once baby turns into a toddler the house is lost! The amount of mess Ollie makes in one unsupervised minute gives me palpitations.
It can all become pretty overwhelming and it’s sometimes hard to remember who you were pre-baby or some days to even think straight let alone feel zen when you’re constantly keeping up with you’re little ones. But at the same time it’s so important to take some time for you.
Becoming a mummy has absolutely changed my life, completely, in every way.
This is something I wrote when Ollie was ten months old and now that he’s two and a half and he normally sleeps through the night it’s still just as true. . .
It occurred to me at somewhere between 3am and 4am this morning whilst cuddling my 10 month old to sleep after two and a half hours of ‘partying’ between his cot and my bed, that this moment was in fact sacred. Despite being sleep deprived, having a banging headache and a dead arm, this is what being a mummy is all about. It’s being ‘there’ for your baby no matter the circumstances. Although these sleepless nights are well horrific, its a phase and I’m sure one day when I’m no longer needed I’ll long for a midnight cuddle.
So with these thoughts in mind I decided to write a somewhat thrown together poem of thoughts about what motherhood means to me, here goes.
The reason why baby massage is so beneficial to young babies is because touch is their most powerful sense, this is how they communicate with the world around them.
Touch is instinctive in both mother and baby, to comfort, to heal and to bond. When mothers touch and massage their babies the hormone oxytocin is released in both baby and mummy- this is the love drug! And it gives you that warm, snuggly and loving feeling.
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